#31 Assuming you are anonymous in the homeschool community
Even in large metropolitan areas, the homeschool community is kind of like a small town. As you go on homeschool field trips, attend homeschool classes, etc... you tend to see the same faces over and over. And on local homeschool e-lists, you see the names over and over again.
There are a lot of positive aspects to this-- you kids can grow up with lots of long-term relationships with adults and kids of a wide age range. If someone hears about a class, field trip or other opportunity that seems like its up your alley, often they'll let you know. If you or your kids have a bad day, everyone knows that its a bad day, and don't jump to any larger conclusions. Just walking into a homeschool day event and running into a bunch of friends unexpectedly can be a warm and wonderful thing.
However, there can be negative aspects too, especially for new homeschoolers, who don't realize how small the community is. Keep in mind that you're making first impressions when you join an e-list, or go on a field trip with a new group. Don't worry about being perfect, but trying to put your best foot forward is always a good idea when you're meeting new people. The family that's driving you crazy? You should expect to see them regularly over the years, so make an effort to be diplomatic. Established homeschoolers need to remember to fight the natural urge to gossip, and to meet newcomers with an open mind and an open heart.
